Mrstevela

Hi! We are not "friending" any more, as with few exceptions, there's nothing to be gained by doing so as we can communicate via direct message and other ways.

Before anything can happen in your bedroom, you have to tell your wife about your fantasy and let her warm up to the idea. It's best to talk about it before the wedding so that there's no issues later. She decides who the lucky guy will be, not you. Take it from an old guy who has been married twice: marry a woman other women call a "slut." She needs to show you that she enjoys slutty behavior before you marry her, as you aren't going to change her by showing her porn movies and talking about "bbc." While you are with her at parties, and in other situations, is she comfortable in the arms of other men? Giving off signs that they could take her right then? Is she finding ways to touch them and hug them? Has she ever said "now there's a guy I'd love to have babies with" (positioning the comment as humor, but it 'ain't humor - it's what she's thinking!). Now 'yer 'talkin! YOU have to give up control and trust your wife. Can you do it?

As my wife reminded me: "stop the pressure and let me make it happen. I'm the one who will be receiving another man's sperm and body fluids. And I'm the one who will be pregnant. So I get to have it my way with the right man. And I may be emotionally involved. I need this connection and your support to have good sex. And once I start, I won't want to stop. Can you handle it?" She made me think. And yes, I wanted it. And yes, it has worked out. There's been a few speed bumps but in the final analysis, we wouldn't have it any other way.

If you really want your wife to have great sex with another man and she's ready for the experience, supress your video fantasy a bit - camcorders change the entire dynamic when the fun is taking place. Just sit the camcorder on the tripod or dresser and leave them alone. Your video making time will come later when she's ovulating and having sex with him. Right now, it's about her having great sex with another man.