This is a print version of story The Truth About Swinging.... by heretic1 from xHamster.com

The Truth About Swinging....

So....You've been thinking about expanding your sexual boundaries.You fantasize about it,youre thinking about trying to get into the "lifestyle," a gentle euphemism for "swinging," or at its basic core..."Wife Swapping.But first,I hope you've asked yourself a few serious questions, before you hop right in there a drag the little missus into something you might not have all the facts on.We've been doing this for over 20 years,my wife and I,and its not all its cracked up to be.In fact,its NOTHING like the websites say it is.Here's the FIRST question you need to aske yourself.One) Did I have to "talk my wife into it?" When you first suggested it,what was here answer?When you brought it a few days later,what was her answer? If youre having to "beg," or,"talk her into it," you'd best stop right here,and resume rules and roles of the conventional marriage, and never bring this up again to her.Here's why...In 98% of all swinging couples,its the male who brought it up in the first place.Thats right,MOST of the time,its the man who wants to try this.Most women DO NOT want to share her partner with another woman.Most women only get into swinging,because the husband brought it up,and rarely do they bring this up themselves to their spouse.Most women who are swingers, are doing it just to "go along" with their husbands wishes and desires,for a lot of reasons,like out of fears that if she doesnt go along,he'll do it anyway,or she's afraid to lose him in many ways.If you had to talk her into it,its gonna bite your ass later.The second question you need to ask yourself,is this...Two)Do I realize that my wife and others, are not swinging just for my own sexual desires,only,and do I realize that others will be involved?? You'd be amazed as to how many men seem to think that his wife and other wives are to be his own ~personal~ porn stars.You'd be amazed as to how many men seem to think that women are STILL,nothing more than sex objects in swinging.You're lead to believe that men in the lifestyle, have a better sense of their partners sexuality,because they are able to do this.Men are the same,whether they are "swingers" or not.And most women do this because its what he wants to do.Most men seem to think its all about HIM,and everyone else is there FOR his desires and fantasies.Sometimes, BOTH the man and woman as a couple, are like this,as well,the people they meet,are there to satisfy THEIR fantasies,and they do not care about the fact,that the other couple has feelings, and are NOT "sex objects," but another couple,another two human beings with whom youve decided to share a VERY intimate part of your life with.In fact,its the MOST intimate part,but you'd be amazed as to how many swingers seem to think that the OTHER couple is there for their desires and they arent mature enough to deal with it.Men are still men,and they seem to think they are gods gift to women.A woman is not a "whore," or a slut,if she wont sl**p with YOU.But you'd be amazed as to how many men regard women who swing as whores and sluts,when you would think they would be past this.For the most part,they're not...Are you?Then the Thrid thing you gotta ask yourself is this,and while its not the first thing,this one is VERY Important....Three) Has another couple,or other couples inviting you AND your spouse to swing with them? have they mentioned it? have they 'hinted around? Have they asked to include you AND your spouse??? Here's why...Most swinging couples are after ONE THING,the "Holy Grail" of swinging,and thats the threesome with his wife and another woman.Most swingers ONLY swing with another couple to attempt to have this more vicariously through another couple,because they cannot GET a threesome with another woman??? Why? Like I said,its the "Holy Grail" of swinging,and if they could get a single female to join them,believe me,they WOULD NOT have the ~both~ of you in the equation.They will GLADLY have the female,YOUR wife,but if they can do without out you,or have you "hold the camera," which means youre not "welcome," basically,or maybe YOU get lucky and the guy in the other couple kinda "bows out," then you can have your "vicarious" and cheaply attained "threesome." This is what MOST swinging couples are after.Period.Theh,you gotta ask yourself another question,Four) What about our PRIVACY? Most swingers demand that you be "discreet." They dont want you to tell ANYONE about what they're doing.And you dont want them to tell anyone what youre doing.Swinging is not as accepted,socially,and years ago,it was even WORSE,so....They,like you,have jobs,friends,families that they dont want knowing about this.Very FEW,and I mean FEW,are so "open" that they dont care who knows.But,hopefully,you already "KNOW" how people are,and you know that people,as a rule, CANNOT KEEP THEIR MOUTHES SHUT!We met one couple some years ago,and they told us to be "discreet," of course,but over the course of the evening,we found out that the neighbor knew,the babysitter knew,a s****r-in-law knew,"her" BOSS knew...And I told my wife,that if something ever happened,WE would get the BLAME for "telling everyone," and sure enough,a few months later, her Boss fired her, and she blamed us for telling him and we were NEVER within 1000 feet of him,never saw him,never knew his name.Basically,she didnt let HIM in on it...And thats something to think about...if there is a "falling out" between you and another couple,they WILL run and tell EVERYONE that you guys are swingers,and of course they WILL NOT mention that they were involved,oh no,they "heard it" form someone else.Believe me,and if you dont know this already,you DONT need to be swinging,that people will,they WILL LIE THROUGH THEIR TEETH to get the heat off them,and swingers are NO EXCEPTION to this rule.Question 5 is this,you gotta ask yourself...Five) Am I SURE of my sexuality,and what I am??? When youre getting naked with another couple is NOT the time to announce something you havent told your spouse,or te other couple beforehand.Im straight,the wife is bisexual.She figured this out when she was a girl,and I figured this out when I was young,too.A swinging couple is NOT THERE to help you "find" yourself.Swingers are NOT "sex ther****ts."Swinging women DO NOT like a "bi curious" woman,you better know what you want and who you are long before you even MEET another couple for sex.Also,and this is a big one...If you are swinging to save your marriage,or "add spice" to it,youre screwed.it WILL come back to bite your ass.When I hear this,see this,or pick up on it,a marriage in trouble,then I know the outcome,and they dont have much longer to be together.Swinging will NOT "save" youre marriage,nor will it 'help" your sex life.Your sex life should already be determined long before you think about swinging.Swinging can be fun,but do not expect it to be anything more than waht Ive described here.What ive described is based on 20 yearsPLUS of experience...Give it a thought......


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