t’s not that they’re bad subjects to talk about with women in and of themselves.
The problem is that when guys talk about these things, there’s NO PEOPLE IN THEM. And when there is a person, that person is not interacting with anyone else.
Look at the most popular shows on television today like "Desperate Housewives", “Survivor”, “The Bachelor”, and "The Apprentice".
Whether you consider yourself above watching these kinds of reality shows or not, millions and millions of people DO.
What makes these shows so wildly popular?
All of these shows are NOTHING BUT scenes PACKED with complex person-to-person interactions.
Every scene from the “The Bachelor” is either girl fighting girl, girl falling in love with guy, guy falling in love with girl, girl forming friendship with girl, and so on FOREVER!.
From these human interactions we LEARN about human nature. We LEARN how to better select mates ourselves. It’s a story that we know has an outcome. That’s why it’s so interesting and entertaining.
And that’s why your “How I picked out what car I decided to buy,” story is crap.
That’s why your “How I studied really hard and got a good job,” story blows.
In the first case, it would be much better how your Mom was really against your decision to buy that car and how you got into a big fight with her, and through that conflict you learned something about your relationship with your Mom that you’d never realized before – and how you were able to get past your differences with her.
Stories can be about simple, casual interactions you’ve experienced with people. If the situation was unusual, so much the better. Like the time you...
…brought your girlfriend to a swinger’s club and how she reacted to it.
…or how you and your friends would egg houses on Halloween and almost got caught.
…or how you were at a concert and met the band.
…or why your best friend just broke up with his girlfriend of five years.
Notice how all of these stories are about relationships and how the relationship CHANGED from the beginning of the story as compared to the end.
Now you know WHY to tell stories and now you know WHAT they should be about.
But the even bigger question is HOW to tell them.
Now, if you’re not a seasoned, practiced storyteller, storytelling that is entertaining can be a HARD skill to pick up. Storytelling takes a lot of PRACTICE.
In fact, it can be about as difficult as learning how to surf.
If you’re not careful, a strong wave can pick the surfboard up and slam you in the face with it.
However, I’ll share with you my one technique that makes storytelling EASY.
This technique takes all of the guesswork out of storytelling
This technique takes all of the pressure off of you.
This technique makes your storytelling FOOL-PROOF.
And that is, write out your story AHEAD OF TIME and MEMORIZE it. Practice it out loud four or five times at home and then use it out in the field with women. Tell the SAME story again, and again, and again.
The fact is, your story won’t be really smooth until you’ve used it with a girl or group of girls at least three times. It takes at least that many times to gauge how women will react to your story and what you can do to improve it.
In other words, do NOT try to make up cool stories on the fly in the middle of an interaction. Most likely, it will be lame and you’ll fall flat on your face.
It’s a myth that "naturals" make up and tell great stories on the fly.
The reality is, that "natural" has told that very same story a THOUSAND times to a THOUSAND different people. That’s why the story is so good. He has practiced it over and over again. It’s a routine.
It just sounds like he’s saying it for the very first time to YOU.
But in reality it’s been thoroughly rehearsed to DEATH.
The natural storyteller doesn’t think of it as rehearsal, but that’s what he’s doing – rehearsing, rehearsing, rehearsing – the SAME stories over and over again.
So write one or two entertaining, emotional journey, laugh-evoking stories that involve people interacting. Rehearse them to yourself until you’ve got them memorized and then use them again and again, over and over, to fill “the void”.
You’ll instantly separate yourself from the 99% of guys who only know how to talk about guy things or ask boring, cliché questions.
Now, are you interested in learning more about keeping up your end of the conversation – and being funny and entertaining while doing so?