a couple of health concerns you should have about having sex or playing, some probably obvious but i guess important to mention.

1.std's (sexually transmitted diseases) is the first thing that come to mind. even if condom is used there is certain danger of contracting a disease (condoms only provide like 80% protection rate not 100% percent like many people believe).

2.damage to the anus. if you have anal sex or play with toys into your anus, you can damage it. anything from mild irritation to tearing it, incontinence, prolapse.

3.damage to the vagina. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5049a_qa.html

4.always research before doing bdsm or other kind of play so you dont have unpleasant situations that include unwanted damage to you or your partner.

i am observing the opposite changes that happen before having sex -when one feels very hot- and after having an orgasm. feelings and thoughts vary wildly in opposite directions. its like a switch being turned on and off. u may want to fulfill a sexual fantasy so much at the summit of ur hotness and afterwards u are just amazed u wanted that fantasy -and even thinking what stupid thought it was. as with any other emotion, thats why is not generally a good idea to make certain decisions when u feel very emotional, be that sad, happy, angry, sexual, etc, otherwise there is a danger to committ suicide, trust people you shouldnt have trusted, being hurtful with someone, or get aids. so if u absolutely dont need to, do not make decisions when u feel very emotional.

even though in open society sadomasochism is seen as something kinky or bizarre, actually its quiet the opposite, being there a psychosomatic explanation for it. sadomasochistic feelings, which are quiet natural primordial instincts in human beings, are hardwired in humans in order to enjoy mating and procreate.; this is the reasons why people enjoy feeling an orgasm -even though its actually something that can be defined as painful- and thats why humans get aroused while moaning and hearing partners moan during sexual activity. if humans were not sadomasochistic, as soon as a mate hears partner moan, enjoyment of sexual activity would stop. now, according to a persons life experience and genes tats how sadomasochistic that person would be and that would define what kind of activities interests himher.

i dont know if there is a spiritual world or not but for some reason watching porn or just having sexual pleasure sometimes gives me an awful emptiness....

i feel frustration that i have to feel sexuality. i would like not to feel the need to it. but i do....
well, i watch porno, have sex online, masturbate... but i was born in the late 70s and havent really had sex like for real
i wonder how it feels, i guess i have an idea after watching all these lol
its just that sometimes it gets so lonely....

http://www.pornnomore.com/PornandtheDemonic.htm

i got the problem, maybe listening music full volume when you got the temtpation helps

hope it helps

After playing a bit with my sexuality for some time I think it's best to leave sex alone as much as possible although always keeping watch for unwanted behaviour or symptoms that arises out of lack of sex in one's life, ie, depression, anxiety, irritability, v******e, insomnia, constipation, but I think with a proper life regime, these and others can be overcome, mostly by keeping one's mind and body busy, eating healthy, not being isolated, having an objective and fair mindset.
Shunning sex completely is idealistic and something incredibly difficult to achieve -given that it is a basic instinctual need and it's programmed in our genes- but if the whole of humanity would shun sexuality and not acting out of instinctual behaviours this would be a very good world to live in.
ty&gl

if at least there was no aids....