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The nine degrees of submission

1.The outright non-submissive masochists or kinky sensualist.

Not in to servitude, humiliation or giving up of control. It is just pain or spiced up sensuality on the masochists own term and for own pleasure. It is solely to satisfy one’s own pleasure and not to gratify the other partner.

2.. Non Slave

Not in ti even playing as a “slave” but in to other “submissive roleplaying”, for example school teacher scene, infantilism, f***ed transvestism. Its usually in to humiliation but in to servitude even in a play.

3. Play slave

Likes to play at being slave.. Likes to “feel’ subservient. Likes to feel in getting “used” to gratify one’s partner’s sadism but only on the slaves’s own terms. Dictate the scene to a large degree, often fetishistic.

4. true submissive, non-slave

Really gives up control(but temporarily and only within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission “other than” serving or being used by dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, or by giving up of responsibility. Doesn’t dictate the scene except in very general terms but still seeks his/her direct pleasure (rather than getting one’s pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant)

5. True submissive play slave

Really gives up control (though only temporarily only during brief scenes and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving or getting used by the dominant but again only for fun purpose, usually erotic, (may or may not be in to pain, but if so, is turned on by pain indirectly, that means they enjoy being the objects of one’s partner’s sadism, on which the submissive places few requirements or restrictions.

6. Uncommitted short term but more than play semi-slave

Really gives up control(though usually only limits), want to serve and used by the dominant, wants to provide practical , non-erotic as well as fun-erotic services, but only when the slave is in a mood. May even act as full time slave for many days at a time but is free to quit at any time or may continue till the end of the agreed time. May or may not have a long term relationship with one’s master/mistress. Anyway the slave has the final say over when he/she will serve without any pressure.

7. Part-time consensual but REAL slave

Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship. And regards oneself as the mistress’ or master’s property at all time. Wants to obey and please him/her at all aspects of life either fun related or practical scene related. Devotes most of one’s time to other”s commitment.

8. Full time live-in consensual slave

Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements. The slaves regards himself/herself as existing solely for the mistress/master’s use, pleasure and well-being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. It is not much different from the situation of a traditional housewife, except that, within the S/M world the slave’s position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially when the slave is male( since males certainly aren’t socially pressured in to this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full time “slave” arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements.

9. Consensual total slave with no limits.

A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn’t exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the consent is induced by brainwashing, social or economic pressures and hence isn’t fully consensual. A few S/M purists will insist that you aren’t really a slave unless you are willing to do absolutely anything for your master or mistress, with no limits at all. There are few who claims to be no limits slaves, but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.
Posted by nastylonghair 2 years ago
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1 year ago
very interesting
1 year ago
Hit me up baby!
2 years ago
This is very well written and accurate based on my own experiences and what I was taught by my mentor. Very realistic - especially number 9. Most D/s relationships probably end at number 5 although some do go past there. I do appreciate the writer including the word "consensual" on a frequent basis because it really is the corner stone of any D/s relationship.
2 years ago
Dearest nicky,

Great post. Nice logic and thought behind the writing.

Spanks and kisses,
Master Padraig
2 years ago
enlightening post
2 years ago
so which are you? if its below 4 i will be disapointed! xx
2 years ago
Thanks for the primer!