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and calm the fuck down. With the ratio of men-to-women probably already sitting at 100:1 or more, why does it seem like so many of you are hell-bent on driving the remaining women off of this site?(gay men not included, of course. This isnt directed at you guys.)It seems like every week, someone on my friend list has decided to close her account, and if Im able to catch her before she does so and ask her why, 99% of the time they give the same reason: disrespectful men. And lets not forget about the tons of women who dont even last a few hours before being scared off. Guys, I understand that you may feel as if youre being ignored because she wont respond to your messages or comments, or she wont add you as a friend. I understand that some of the women here are fake, or love the massive amounts of attention that they get, or they may even be genuinely shitty people. I get it, I really do. However, theres really no excuse to send someone a message a minute, then turn around and insult/demean her when she doesnt answer right away. It is very possible that she has hundreds of messages to deal with, or literally over a thousand friend invites (seen it myself.) With so many men vying for the attention of so few women, youre going to fall by the wayside sometimes. Thats really just how it is. Throwing a tantrum like a c***d and calling someone a miserable bitch, while it may make you feel better for a fraction of a second, is, in reality, doing nothing but ensuring that more and more women leave the site. Odds are, youre misdirecting your anger and causing interesting and intelligent people to leave. It is ridiculously counter-productive, and completely flies in the face of simple logic (isnt that something that so many men pride themselves on? Being logical?) So, in short, if youve sent three messages or so, and she doesnt answer within a few hours, just calm down, back off for a day or so, and try again later. If she still doesnt talk to you, just get over it and go talk to someone else. Oh, and stop hounding the lesbians. Seriously, cut that shit out. (Apparently, xhamster blogs dont like apostrophes)

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Pornstar
comments: 1178
May 29, 2012, 4:51 pm 
Bravo and thank you! It is wonderful to find a man who understands...it can get very frustrating at times :(

Kama Sutra Guru
comments: 622
May 24, 2012, 8:36 pm 
Accolades for a well writen blog. Perfect in every way!

Kama Sutra Guru
comments: 945
May 23, 2012, 2:16 am 
Awsum ...

Celebrity
comments: 4323
May 18, 2012, 7:00 am 
Yeah, I have gotten emails 2-8 months later from women on this wesbite. Theres the few of us that actually understand that women leave this website because of asshole, of course I have to add in Rock Man Bitch for scaring away my best freind fuckmehardgirl and others to that those two fake vip's and many others have tried to degrade.

Celebrity
comments: 2219
May 16, 2012, 10:00 am 
Many thanks to you !!!!!!!!!

Porn Expert
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comments: 217
May 15, 2012, 1:25 pm 
That is such a great blog....more of you impatient guys need to read this. Learn some respect and get a lot more attention from the women on here.

Newbie
comments: 24
May 15, 2012, 6:59 am 
Nuff said and well said!

Porn Expert
comments: 372
May 14, 2012, 5:19 pm 
Good advice.. i guess

Pornstar
comments: 1469
May 10, 2012, 8:46 pm 
what a great post message all men should be given this message when they join up ie hamster should send it to them automaticly

Porn Lover
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comments: 84
May 9, 2012, 11:19 am 
My respects. A most apt and much needed blog!

Porn Lover
comments: 146
May 9, 2012, 11:09 am 
awesome!!! so true! :D lol

Pornstar
online
comments: 1856
May 2, 2012, 10:39 pm 
Awesome, well said I have thought the same thing you did something about it Bravo'

zaccas
retired
April 25, 2012, 1:50 pm 
Well said!

xHamster Legend
comments: 18157
April 24, 2012, 10:21 pm 
I agree with what you wrote. You are wise beyond your years, m8.

Newbie
comments: 44
April 24, 2012, 2:21 am 
Thank you so much. Kisses

suckdick
retired
April 21, 2012, 4:54 am 
What can I say....
"Everyone" else have already said it!

You are SOoooo Right!

Porn Expert
comments: 285
April 16, 2012, 4:11 am 
Peach Darlin! So much light in this post!

I am adding it to my Favorites!

Newbie
comments: 5
April 14, 2012, 4:06 am 
But on the other hand why would the women leave the site over a few asshole men. Haven't these women ever heard of the BLOCK button though I mean like foreal??????

Porn King
online
comments: 9060
April 12, 2012, 8:13 am 
Preach on brother and let me add that those same dudes you talk about Piss off Husbands. they need to stop writing messages to couples as though they are addressing a single woman. Sending "Baby I'll fuck your slutty black pussy hard" to a couple profile is NOT COOL. even though it's a Porn site You are still talking to Another Man's Wife. Cut That shit out

Celebrity
comments: 2238
April 10, 2012, 12:25 am 
thank you for stating it this way, we should be here to have fun, not making someone upset

Porn Expert
comments: 210
April 8, 2012, 11:23 am 
That was the best comment I have ever read on this site. If a man can't take rejection then it's probably not a good idea to talk to him anyway. Where I come from calling a person or texting them repeatedly when they don't answer is called stalking. Any great post.

Newbie
comments: 5
April 8, 2012, 3:08 am 
So well said for a 22 yearold.

So good infact, ima steal it!
No offense, but it needs to be said!

Kama Sutra Guru
comments: 611
April 6, 2012, 4:19 pm 
agreed

Newbie
comments: 27
April 3, 2012, 7:44 am 
I love you. Lol Well said!

Porn Expert
comments: 198
March 30, 2012, 7:01 am 
I agree 100%

Porn Lover
comments: 97
March 20, 2012, 5:17 pm 
TRUE

Newbie
comments: 2
March 14, 2012, 3:29 pm 
Thank you and well said, if only they could be all like you,I had a horrible PM this morning because I told a guy to stop pestering Jello, told him it was her room and she would do what she wanted when see wanted, and he decided to pm and tell me to fxxx off. lack of respect is common, it how you deal with it that makes the difference. thank you again, oh and you so make me laugh thank you xx

Kama Sutra Guru
comments: 732
March 4, 2012, 2:27 am 
Very well said. Personally I have always taken the non-agressive approach to getting a friend request or mail answered by female users. I might comment something of a sexual nature or straight forward on women pics, but when messaging it is always toned way the fuck down. I mostly want to know something about them or have a decent conversation to begin with. Being respectful and capable of acting like a decent human being is important to me, even if we are not face to face.

If I do not receive a response, I just leave it be and accept whatever reason she had for not writing back.

So maybe when guys all start following what is written here we will all benefit.

Thanks for taking the time to type this out and post it.

Pornstar
online
comments: 1736
February 26, 2012, 12:42 am 
When I try to write one of these advice for men blogs I end up just cursing. So thanks. :)

Pornstar
comments: 1496
February 25, 2012, 3:28 pm 
This is the reason many relationships have trouble, lack of respect. The anonymity of the net endourages behavior when the consequences are minimal. If I'm rude and get blocked, so what? It's different if I am rude as a known person and I am shunned in real life.

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